Engaging interdependently with others in the process of making decisions feels to many people like giving up autonomy. The freedom to make whatever decisions we want to make so long as we are not harming others is one of the core attractions of the modern world. I see it as a consolation prize for the loss of community and care.
General News
Stepping off the Line into Freedom and Interdependence, Part One: Why
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One of the potent images of our modern, competitive era is that of a long line we are all trying to get ahead in. Our spot in the line determines our access to resources to sustain our bodies, souls, and families. All of us were born into a world in which we are all on this endless line. We don’t choose the line. We only choose how we relate both to our place in the line and to the existence of the line.
Judaism
Stepping into Leadership: the Magic of Self-Acceptance
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Developing this particular version of humility, the true dis-identification with our strengths and, from that, the ability to enjoy them, can then become fuel for our leadership as well as clarity about what to call on when we embrace leadership, when we plan our actions, when we choose how to respond in a moment of challenge. These are the baseline qualities that we will lean into and build our leadership around.
Empathy
Transcending Barriers while Life Meets Death
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In this time, so full of pain and challenge, I was unexpectedly nourished by an email I received from someone who is consciously, purposefully trying to live applied NVC and Conflict Transformation in work and life, currently doing it in Eastern Sri Lanka. I am sharing an abridged version of her words here.
Culture
On the Receiving End of Hate
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Still feeling upset about Trump’s comments about Haiti? So is Phoenix Soleil: “What he says hurts me because he’s voicing a shadow in this culture.”
Gender and Sexuality
#MeToo and Liberation for All
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Most people seem to believe both that punishing men is successful at protecting and supporting women, and that nothing other than punishment could be. I question both.
Non-Violent Communication (NVC)
Life, Interdependence, and the Pursuit of Meeting Needs
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Reclaiming our innate capacity for receiving takes us on a journey of recognizing, accepting, and embracing our needs, and re-developing the trust that others and life itself will respond and give us what we need.
Culture
How to be Effective at Your Thanksgiving Table This Year
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Ever had a frustrating experience on Thanksgiving with friends or family? Here are some tips on how to navigate that at your Thanksgiving table 2017.
Non-Violent Communication (NVC)
Nonviolence in the Face of Hatred
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The practice of nonviolence begins, for real, precisely when our actions, words, or thoughts are not aligning with our commitment. Because, as I finally understood recently, our capacity often lags behind our commitment.
General News
Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy
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What’s most pressing for me is to hold in the foreground two realities simultaneously. One is the red alert danger of erupting violence leading to serious harm to people who are already vulnerable… The other is the commitment to humanize everyone, including the brutalizers.